Vent

Okay - I just need to vent for a second.  Matt and I (mainly I) have reached that point where everyone is starting to ask us when we are having kids.  For the most part, I don't mind.  It is our family and friends asking and they just are curious.  Once we explain things to them, they accept and move on - no repeated asking/nagging.  However, it is the people that I work with or random others that ask and then feel the need to give me a lecture afterwards about it that really are starting to bother me.  This has started happening a bit more frequently and I hadn't really realized it until today when it happened at work again.  I explained to the lady that we would like to wait a few years still.  There are things that we would like to do before having children.  To which the most common response is "Well, how old are you anyway?"  What the heck!  I proceed to tell them that realistically we will probably be 30 when we have children.  "Oh, well you need to think of you age - seriously, 30?  I had mine right after high school."  Seriously - what makes you think you have the right to tell me that my decision is wrong.  You are not me, you are not us, and this is not your decision.  And for the record, 30 is not old!  I would expect this from our parents because, well, they would like grandchildren but we don't even get that response from them.  I know that there are pros and cons to both having children when you are young and then waiting a little while.  I would have never imagined that I would be 30 before having my first child but life happens. Just stop acting like our children will be deformed because, after all, I will be 30.  Ugh! 

 

Sorry, just needed to vent.  And don't worry, I won't snap over comments either.  I think you would fall into the friends/family category.  Plus, maybe some of you have experienced this as well and can tell me the best way to strangle someone and get away with it :)